Today is RU OK day (are you ok) & I’m asking, are you ok? Such a simple question but one we so often don’t ask (& don’t answer honestly).
To open up conversation I’m sharing my personal experience and I hope you will feel comfortable sharing yours.
After the birth of my first child everything went south pretty quickly. He had severe reflux (still does, even at 3), screamed for hours every day and slept very little. I was a mess. I felt like a crap mum (everyone else’s babies followed the rules!). I was utterly exhausted (physically and emotionally) and totally miserable. When my son turned 1 I was diagnosed with post natal depression. In reality I think I had been suffering since he was born (maybe even in the later part of my pregnancy). Many times people had asked me if I was ok and many times I had said yes, just tired. But I wasn’t. I thought it was normal to feel like crying all day and like I was failing as a mother but it’s not. Even if you are really sleep deprived.
You don’t have to wake up and feel like you just can’t face the day. There are people who can help. You will feel better. It will be ok even if right now it’s not. Ask for help. Answer honestly when someone asks RU OK.
Today, ask someone (& be prepared to listen, RU OK and if someone asks you, answer honestly.
Find out more about RU OK day.
Some great resources
The Black Dog Institute
PANDA (ante and post natal depression)
I would love you to share your story or add any other great resources.